POINTERS, TIPS & ADVICE for YOU University STUDENTS

Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Once again, it’s been awhile since my last entry. I went to bed the other night, only to be bombarded with some information that I felt compelled to get up & write down! I realized it would be great information to share with future YOU University students.

YOU University has been & is such a wonderful, life changing program for me. As I work my way through each building and experience healing, growth, and learning; I have come across some things to share.

I decided to share these tips to help those, who will be embarking upon their journey through the program. I do so to be of help, to share some of what I experienced in hopes of helping to make your journey easier for you.


The following is what I’ve learned in YOU University:

1. I realized it takes complete focus & consistency throughout.
2. Very important, Do Not
3. I learned that I needed to totally commit to myself to give 100% all of the time & to stick with it, through facing my emotionally charged issues.
4. compare yourself and where you are at in the program to your fellow students. Just work at your own pace & trust that you are right where you need to be!
5. A crucial component is complete honesty, you must remain completely open & honest with yourself. If your not, the only one your hurting is yourself!!
6. Something I discovered during a very tough time in my journey, that helped me big time! It said that experiencing 1 or more of the following manifestations IS PROOF that your self-mastery process is working:

• An increase in old, dysfunctional behaviors.
• Distinguishable amounts of yelling, crying, talking, excessive activity, physical ailments, or illness.
• Feelings of depression, anxiety, numbness, dissociation, being “Zoned-Out”.
• An increase in compulsive behaviors such as alcohol, drugs, sex, food, TV watching.
• Feelings of confusion, uneasiness.
• Feelings of anger, hatred, or resentment.
• Justifications and rationalizations.

That information was found in a book I have had and read most of. None of which truly resonated with me until now!!!

I am sure to come across more but, for now that’s what I have.

I hope this information helps my future fellow YOU U students.

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Testimonial of Appreciation for YOU University

Thursday, April 21, 2011

I am working through YOU University & I really cannot say enough great things about this program, seriously!! The results to date that I have experienced can be noticed not only by myself & the others who are going through the program as well but, my family & friends too.

I found this program by accident or so I thought? I have met the most wonderful people who are so supportive, caring, & all around a great group! I have gained wonderful new friends that are all over the world. California, Oregon, United Kingdom, Australia, and the group continues to grow daily.

Sure, there are a lot of Life Coach training programs out there. But, this one is the most comprehensive ones I have come across. You get a great curriculum, add the support of weekly group calls and peer coaching calls then add time on Google Wave & there is pretty much not a time when you cannot get the support you may need or want! Friendships quickly develop & I love having like minded people that get me & what I am trying to do.

The curriculum is done online at your own pace & it’s powerful stuff! I love that the exact material that I will take my clients through is the very material I have completed myself! The tools & techniques I will teach clients, I learned & will use for the rest of my life too.

You don’t buy into a program, do the work alone & then send for a certificate of completion. You are never alone & you will earn your certificate but, you will be a better much happier person in doing so!! That’s not a promise, it’s a fact! If you do the work, participate in the calls & other activities & you are completely honest with yourself when you do the work & give 100% throughout the entire process you learn so much & you reap such priceless rewards.

I absolutely love YOU University & I am loving my journey home to myself. I have come up against resistance & I have learned to recognize it quicker & push through it. I am learning & loving what I learn. It will be used in my own Life Coaching business & in my own life. I look forward to what each new lesson will bring & I greatly anticipate our weekly group calls as well!

WHAT DO YOU WANT YOUR LIFE TO BE ABOUT?

Monday, April 18, 2011

After giving this topic some more thought, I became very inspired. I realized what an extremely valuable opportunity I have before me!!I am in a position to take my life experience’s and use them for a higher purpose. These experiences that are bad memories, that caused me so much pain and in some cases even traumatized me! I have always thought that there had to be more and I just knew deep inside, that I was meant for bigger & better things in my life. My first & foremost goal is and has been to heal, heal from my past as well as my present! I’ve known that in order to move forward, I would have to face any/all unresolved issues and work through them, in order to heal!! My desire to heal & help others was & is strong enough to do exactly what I need to do. I have a burning desire in the pit of my stomach, a desire to make a difference! And now, because of You University I have the means to do just that!! As I continue on through You U, facing that which has kept me a prisoner in my own mind for so long, the release I feel from working through these painful life experiences, has given me a new lease on life!!! I have wanted to be my own boss and own a highly successful home based business for many years now. However, I was never able to follow through to make it happen. I would take one step forward and then several steps backwards! I pretty much was the only one standing in my own way but, it was easier to make excuses and point the finger. In other words remain in a victim stance! Then it hit me like a ton of bricks, I woke up one day and knew that it was time to get it together for real! I began my search for the missing piece to the puzzle, the thing that would allow me to heal and move forward towards achieving my dreams. Now, I can use growing up in a dysfunctional home with parents who divorced & remarried, parents who were both alcoholics & addicts, to relate to others who may be where I once was! I can use my marriage of 10yrs. in which I was abused physically, mentally, & emotionally to reach out to other woman who are emotionally scarred and in need of help! As my wise Fairy Godmother once said: “Your Life Experiences Are Your Credentials!” In that case I am proud to say that I have many, many more credentials with which to reach out & share what I have and am learning! I have the ability to reach a broad variety of people who may be experiencing one of the many Life Experiences I have went through. To know that I can relate to so many different situations and I come from an authentic place of truly wanting to help others and make a positive impact in the biggest way possible. Well, that is my driving force and I look forward to being the best damn “You University Life Coach” I can be!!

“YOU UNIVERSITY TESTIMONIAL”

Tuesday, March 29, 2011
Time to share another testimonial as to You University and what it has done for me.

I was blessed to experience a very deep and profound healing through You University.  I received a phone call from a friend who wanted to tell me about a call she received from a relative of mine.

This relative is an Aunt, my dads sister and my godmother as well. We have a rocky history, filled with many attempts from her to cause total chaos and pain in my life. I have forgiven her several times only to be on the receiving end of her attacks against me time and time again.

I have never understood why she does this or what I did to make her hate me and want to see my life in shambles. This is no exaggeration, as she told me point blank while looking directly at me with hatred in her eyes that she will make it her life’s  mission to F$#@ my life up! To make matters worse my dad chose to defend her for many years and believe the nasty lies she told him.

To get back to the phone call, I was informed by my friend of her demand that I be evicted from my home so her brother who is moving back to Michigan could live here. She failed in her attempt despite bashing me and spreading more lies to my landlord and friend.

This is where I get excited to share with you the amazing healing and growth I have and am experiencing through You University.  In the past, this phone call would’ve sent me into a downward emotional spiral. I would have been very angry, hurt and upset and it would’ve lasted for days and sometimes weeks!

Not this time, I realized upon hanging up that by getting upset and reacting the way I normally did, I was giving her power over me!! I felt nothing, I was able to let it go with no problems. I vowed to myself to never allow her to affect me in anyway again. I felt a strong and profound sense of empowerment and awareness. This alone speaks volumes for the healing and growth taking place on this Journey through You University.

I cannot say enough about this training program, this program allows you to rid yourself of any and all emotional garbage from your past or present. It helps you to get back to the real you, your true self-that person you have always been but lost along the way! You go through this program and learn tools and techniques that you will use for the rest of your life, ones that truly help and really work towards dealing with situations you are stuck in, don’t want to be in, etc… I haven’t even touched on the people, the support I have been given, the true friendships I have developed, just all around awesome people who can relate to me, understand my situations and life experience’s, as I have said before they get me!

What’s more, I firmly believe to be an effective Life Coach you need to have gone through the training, utilize the tools and techniques that you will be using with your clients and continue to do so. That’s what makes You University stand out above the other Life Coach programs I researched. It is very thorough and you actually feel and see the results starting with yourself first!!

“REALIZATIONS AND AHA’S”

Sunday, March 27, 2011

 I continue to learn so much about myself through You University and I love it! I get to a point where I think I am stuck or blocked and then I am hit with a new realization and/or aha moment. The current assignment I am working on is a prime example. It’s a simple assignment involving making a list of the top 10 people I look up to and their values that I admire.

This should’ve been a breeze, no problem-wrong! I kept getting stuck and frustrated and couldn’t understand why! It wasn’t until I realized that I had spent so many years avoiding my feelings and emotions and remaining numb, that that’s where the problem was.

I am still getting back into the mode of feeling and expressing my emotions and feelings. It’s very difficult for me to verbalize how I feel. I struggle to pinpoint what I am feeling.

I spent so many years in a victim mentality, using avoidance tactics to cope that indeed I am working hard to be able to get in touch fully with my feelings/emotions.

I love that I was able to see what the problem was for me and work on it! I honestly would’ve not recognized this prior to beginning this journey through You University. I simply would’ve walked away and not even dealt with or tried to figure it out.

Yet, another testimonial to the awesomeness that is YOU UNIVERSITY!!!!

MY JOURNEY CONTINUES TO UNFOLD

Wednesday, March 16, 2011

It’s been some time since my last update, and very much time for a new one!  I am hard at work on my journey through You University and absolutely loving the experience. I have experienced so much growth, healing, and learning up to this point, it is truly life changing!! I have come up against resistance in completing assignments and facing certain emotional issues from the past. However, I was able to recognize immediately and work through the resistance which speaks volume’s to my personal growth. In the past, I would’ve normally shut down at the first sign of resistance and walked away. It was my way of not dealing with any of the emotional stuff.

The bond between myself and the other student’s has grown by leaps and bounds and friendships have bloomed. I am grateful for the strong support system available to me and I know that they get me, they understand where I am coming from and are genuine in their efforts to help me through whatever I may be experiencing at any given time. This alone has been an invaluable part of my journey.

I must say, I always thought that by not concentrating on my past that I was okay. I couldn’t have been further from the truth. The past and all of it’s unresolved emotional garbage has been a toxic venom brewing inside of me for years and it has affected me in more ways then I even know! The release I feel as I face each unresolved issue is enormous, I actually can feel it on a physical level! Of course, on an emotional and mental level as well.

My awareness continues to expand, as does my intuitiveness and I am working on listening to my intuition more. Overall, it has been an emotionally charged journey, difficult at times, but, absolutely rewarding, healing, and so worth it!! My determination and commitment has grown ever stronger, with each new experience.

THE JOURNEY CONTINUES

I have just finished an assignment that has left me mentally exhausted! I re-visited my past, during the period of 29yrs. thru 35yrs. of age. I realized that 15yrs. thru 21yrs. of age, was the worst period of my life growing up but, 29yrs. thru 35yrs. old, was the most traumatic time in my life!! It fully explains my resistance to completing the assignment. At first, I thought after completing the 15-21yrs. old assignment the rest would be a breeze. I didn’t understand why I was dragging my a@$ in completing this one and now I know why! I won’t make the same mistake I made previously, I will not hold back any tears that wish to flow and flow they will. I am more determined to push ahead and dedicate myself to my You University work. I absolutely want to break free from the past and heal. Each completed assignment brings me closer to the life I want to live instead of the prison my past has locked me in. As I look at the Teri of that time in my past, I ache for her and send her my love, she is gone but not forgotten. I am grateful for You University and the wonderful opportunity to make my dream of being a Life Coach and helping others who may be where I once was come true. To heal my past, and discover the authentic me, the person I have always been, am meant to be, but couldn’t see is what really, really matters to me at this point in my life. I joyously release the past and I am at peace!!!!

RESISTANCE AND REALIZATIONS

Sunday, February 6, 2011

I am working to overcome great resistance in completing building #2 still!! I have made a promise to complete it by Sunday Feb. 2nd, 2011 – today!!! I realize that I am in a fight with my ego who is scared and simply trying to protect me. Change is always scary for the Ego. I also know that once I push through this resistance and just complete the assignment, I will feel so much better. I will also move forward in the healing process and that is the main idea of this journey home to myself. I must say if it were not for my Wise Fairy Godmother, Maia Berens and the support of my classmates and everyone else involved with You University I would be lost!!

I realize that looking at my past and the not so pleasant experiences I endured is difficult. I know that in order to make progress and continue healing I must do this. I am so grateful for the awareness that I am gaining and my ability to instantly recognize when I am resisting, that I have gained since starting my journey through You University. I definitely look forward to graduating, looking back and smiling with pride of my accomplishments and for healing that which binds me now. More importantly, is the excitement I have in knowing I will be helping others on their journey upon my graduation. If I can take my life experiences and use them to help others and show them how to heal themselves, that is living my life with purpose.

MY EXPERIENCE WITH BUILDING # 2

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

I officially began my journey through You University on November 23rd, 2010.The way it works is, you work in different buildings and as you complete all the assignments in one building you move to the next and so on. While there is no time limit for completing these buildings, Maia does provide us with a suggested guideline we can follow.

As of right now, I am in Building # 2 and ideally should have completed it by the second week in January. I have experienced massive resistance with this building and it was very difficult to get started. I pushed through the resistance and finally got started on the assignments, which are broke down according to age groups in this building.

I was making good progress through the assignments that is, until I came to the 15yrs. through 21yrs. age group. Right before I started it, I had a huge blow out with my daughter’s over what they bought at the grocery store? As I began the writing assignment, I started to become very restless and agitated. Upon completing it, my emotions were all over the place and all I wanted to do was cry! However, I held back the tears not wanting to explain why I was upset to anyone.

When I got up the next morning, I was extremely sick and though I tried to lay back down and get some more rest it did not help. I felt even worse then before, I had chills, body aches & pains the whole nine. In other words, I had the flu! It was crazy how sudden and out of nowhere it came on. Thank goodness for comfy pj’s and nyquil!!

I had to ask, if by holding back my emotions, was that what caused me to become sick? I asked and did some research, the results were surprising to me! People can actually make themselves sick by stuffing their feelings and not processing their emotions. I was told it can actually lower your immune system. Was that what happened in my case? I cannot say for sure. Based on my memories from that time in my life and the affect they had/have on me, chances are really very good that by holding back and not just having a good cry I did make myself sick!!

I really have to say, that this program is pretty damn powerful! The emotional work is not easy at all, I will just put that out there. However, the healing I am experiencing from my toxic past is definitely worth being uncomfortable!!

As for the toxic memories of my past they took me back in time! I could feel the teenager in me, that was deeply & repeatedly hurt by the people she loved the most, her parents. I just wanted to hug her, tell her that I loved her and that it would all be okay. It angered me, to realize how much this affected me, my life and how much so!

Until I completed that assignment and put it all out there, it just festered inside me! Seeping out in the form of toxic relationships, low self-esteem and my fear of becoming successful. It’s hard for me to really explain, how it felt to tell my story. For me to put my secrets out there and be able to rid myself of all that garbage I held inside, for all those years…. was huge!! I felt this sense of relief, as if a ton of weight had been lifted off my shoulders! What’s more I am okay with it now, in the sense that it’s no longer my shameful secret, I told my story, it happened, it hurt me deeply and on so many levels but, I am a strong and I’m a survivor. It was as if, I had taken back my power!

Update on my Journey Home

Friday, January 21, 2011

I posted my first blog entry to show how I found Maia and You University. That was written in the very beginning of my journey. I am now approximately 2 maybe 2 1/2 months into it now. I cannot begin to tell you how happy & grateful I am for the discovery of this program!!

I have basically been a dabbler for a few years, up until 2008 that is. I started to become serious then, about the fact that I wanted to heal and move forward in my life. I knew inside that there was more to life then what I was living and I wanted to find it! I made the decision that I wanted to pursue a Life Coach career. I enjoy helping people and I have always wanted to own a business and be my own boss.

I started researching Life Coaching and what type’s of programs were out there. I discovered one, out of the sea of programs available that stood out to me. It was a Holistic Spiritual Life Coach certification program. The material truly resonated with me and I signed up. I was excited and started reading the manual, listening to the CD’s and even had a coaching session with the Creator of the program. However, as I delved deeper into the training, I came to the part where the emotional work started. Needless to say that was the end of that.

I started my pursuit for change and growth back up in 2010. As I wrote in my previous post, I found Journaling for You Community which led to You University. I look at the previous books I read and programs I signed up for as prior teachers. While every training, program and/or guru claims their material, their methods or products are the best. I realize that what works for one person doesn’t necessarily work for the next. You University is the one that works for me!

I have learned and utilized the tool’s Maia has/is teaching us and I have actually experienced growth. I mean, I actually felt & feel it, both emotionally & physically. People have noticed a change in my appearance and my demeanor. I am more calm and feel more peaceful, I am eager to move forward and experience continued growth & transformation. While I have experienced huge resistance, I have and will continue to push through it. This is how I know I am truly, truly ready for my journey home to myself. It is also, how I know that this is the program for me!!